leaning on family

I think I'm having the opposite problem. I kind of like to handle things alone, though I have been spending more time than usual with my parents. My family has been calling and calling and inviting me places and I'd rather just be alone. I have been going out with friends a lot more than usual too, but try to talk about other things to keep my mind of my life right now.You don't wear out your family - there will be a day when they need to lean on you, and you will get your opportunity to reciprocate. Lean on them while you need to, but keep in mind that you shouldn't be miserable forever. Try to work your way towards a more positive outlook somehow. It will be good for everyone in the end.brother helped me tremendously - the ones who respond do so willingly, so no guilt about wearing out my welcome here (I hope). ::)

for the best.....

Anyone else out there have this situation going on...I've been thinking alot about this...My brother says "this is for the best". He really believes that this is not only the best for him, but the best for ME too! And like, I think he thinks that at some point, I will realize this is for the BEST for me. He was right!..or some such nonsense. I mean, yes, he and I had been completely enmeshed in that, if I didn't understand something on the computer, he would get irritated and whip through it when he showed it to me, as if I was an extension of him - like the part of him that "knew what to do" but just forgot. I wonder if that could be why he truly believes this is the "best" for me too - becuase he doesn't know where he ends and I begin. He doesn't realize that I have feelings DIFFERENT than his. Hum....What do you all think? Anyone else dealing with this "it's for the best" thang?

Tired

I've been running myself ragged for the past month and a half since HE left me, and I think I finally hit a brick wall today. I just have no energy to do anything. I've been out of milk for four days, but can't seem to find the energy to go out and buy some. There is a whole list of housework and other things I need to do, but I can't seem to get up off the couch today. It's almost like the past month or so has been this huge adrenaline rush, and now it has worn off. There is just no motivation left. Maybe a good nights sleep will help. Any suggestions?

crying

My counselor helped me with this one. Pretty much what is happening is that you are suppressing it all for days and then bam, one little thing hit you and its all over and the 'flood gates' are open, per se.The key is to NOT deny letting your feelings out and acknowledging them BUT to have control of them and be able to control them on your terms.In order to do that, it requires some practice so your body/mind know when its 'ok' to let it all out. My counselor had me set aside one hour each day just thinking while at home or a 'safe place'. No tv, no distractions, nothing that wont let you just sit and think and let your feelings come to the top and out. And if you are sitting thinking and nothing comes out, then thats fine. It doesnt require a 'blubberfest' everytime. ;-)What this does is that one, it gives you an 'outlet' each day so that you are not suppressing everything while doing 'life stuff' such as work, etc. Two, it keeps you from having any 'melt downs' at inappropriate places such as in public or at work.I hope this helps and hang in there. Things DO get better.

feeling alone

I think I can relate... I just broke up w/ my BF of 8 months (been separated with my ex for 13 months). I realize that it was too soon to get into that...I had almost no time to myself. I wasn't looking to do this, I was just looking t date guys. You did have alone time prior to this guy... or were you with anther guy? Being alone sucks, I know. With my ex BF, I felt that we did not spend enugh time together (2 hurs a night, only 3 nights a week- when my daughter is with her dad). I wanted more than that, or less than that I guess (makes sense). I was looking for all or nothing, and ended up chosing nothing (with his help). So instead of having a boyfriend and feeling alone, I now have no boyfriend and am alone. But I think it's better in a way (for now). It still hurts, but I am no longer in a committed relationship with someone who couldn not commit enough (in my opinion).

sad

Hey Just me! It's not a simple business transaction - it's the deed to your life! It's the cutting of the strings which supports that ton of bricks you've been carrying forever. Unload them and begin anew! I know - I must sound completely heartless...I don't mean to sound that way. I know how hard this day is for you. I know it hurts like hell...I know you feel lower than dirt when it's over...in fact, you're sometimes not even sure how to feel...it all seems so surreal! Believe me when I tell you, it'll begin to smooth out from here. Oh sure, you'll have those occasional emotional outbreaks...there will still be moments where you'll miss him, but they will get fewer and father between as time passes.Hold your head up and walk tall! You are strong and you can do this and you will be stronger for it!You're in my thoughts and prayers!!

what do I do now

I am not only thinking of myself, however. We do have a son together and I am putting him before me. My husband reacts very angrily towards me, and someone once told me that intesnse anger can come as a result of intense love...(meaning there is still SOME feeling there) I can't help but think that if he didn't care at ALL that he would be totally indifferent towards me altogether, which he is not. I also can't believe that after 10 years of being with someone, 7 married, that you get over someone in just half a year, unless he truly never cared from the start. I know what mistakes I have made, I see where I have gone wrong. The problem is, getting HIM to understand this. He has a history of anxiety disorder which causes him to become very irritational. It is impossible to post one's whole life/marital history. I am just looking for feedback of some kind.

Why do I still feel like I have to be nice?

Had a week from hell with the ex.. Arguments, his name calling, me crying, him saying I destroy peoples lives, finding out he & my first ex are now in cahoots, (the guy he HATED b/c he never saw the kids, didnt pay child support etc..) Anyway, he takes the kids for an overnight yesterday & I think alright Regina, just try being civil & I find myself falling all over myself to be nice, when all he can do is comment on "how sexually frustrated I make him with my new rack" GOOD GRIEF.. then he drops the kids off & I give him a muffin to take to work for breakfast.. DId someone kidnap me in the middle of the night? Why am I being an ounce nice to this jerk? Yes I left, I was the leaver, but it took YEARS and tons of abuse to get out...I dont love him, I dont like him, but the "caretaker" in me still wants to fix things for everyone else so they can be okay with my decision to be happy.. WTF??? I dont know where Im going with this other than beating myself up & not understanding WHY I would feel the need to be nice to someone that calls me an F***ing C**t at least once a week...

celebration

Celebration for Hari Raya Puasa starts at least a month ahead, during the fasting period of Ramadan. Women start to sew beautiful curtains and buy new clothes for the family. Some families also do renovation for the house so that the house would look better when the guests visit it during the festival. After fulfilling their one-month of fasting, the Muslims would be joyful to celebrate Hari Raya Puasa. On the morning of the festival, the Muslims would wear their new clothes and go to the mosque to pray. They offer their thanks to God and after that they would ask for forgiveness from their elders. This is an important custom followed by the Muslims. They feel that the young ones asking forgiveness from their elders is very essential. On the day, they also visit their relatives and friends to celebrate the happy occasion. If you visit Muslims' homes on Hari Raya Puasa you can expect to taste a wide variety of delicious spicy dishes. Some favorite dishes that can be found in Muslims homes on this special occasion are ketupat, lontong, nasi padang and beef rendang. The Muslims also have the habit of giving packets of money to kids when they go visiting. The packets are usually be in green color and children often look forward to getting these money tokens on Hari Raya Puasa. Overall, Hari Raya Puasa is a delightful festival for the Muslims.

Ramadhan

What is Ramadan? Ramadan is the name of the one-month fasting
period when Muslims fast for a period of almost 12 hours.
They fast from dawn till sunset. It is a known fact that during the period
of fasting, apart from eating and drinking Muslims are also forbidden
from smoking and having sexual relations. Only the sick are excused
from fasting during this month. Muslims are expected to avoid lying,
breaking promise or cheating during the month of Ramadan.
The primary purpose of fasting during Ramadan is to remind
all Muslims of self-control and submitting to Allah, the holy one.
Even young kids are taught to fast when they are young.

water diet

The Water Diet: In this page we will talk about the difference between water fasting and what many nutritionists call The Water Diet.

We are also going to emphasize the importance of this precious liquid, and how drinking enough of it on a daily basis can not only help you slim down, but it can assist your intestine in staying clean and free of toxins.

The whole point of this discussion is to encourage you to increase your H2o consumption. The truth is that the majority if us are NOT drinking enough of it, so as to maximize its benefits to our bodies and overall wellbeing.

Let us first look at the difference between water fasting and the so called "water diet" that many persons ask me about.

With water fasting, a person abstains completely from solid food for the purposes of weight loss and detoxification.

A water diet, on the other hand, involves the consumption of at least eight-to-ten 8-ounce glasses of water daily as part of an overall nutrition and health regimen.

These are two separate disciplines yet, in our minds, they should be used hand in hand to optimize your health and weight loss goals.

In various parts of this website I talk about the 40-day water fast I did some years ago and how it literally saved my life.

To this day, I continue to water fast once a week, followed by three-to-seven day fasts at least once a year.

1/2 Gallon of Water Daily For Life

The scientist-developed Water Diet asks you to commit to drinking half a gallon of cool water (no ice) daily - for life. This breaks down to eight, 8-ounce glasses per day - totaling 64 ounces - half a gallon. That's it!

Drinking half a gallon of water per day, it is indicated, can foster gradual weight loss over time, without exercise or special diets.

The premise is that cool water forces your body to burn roughly 60 calories more per day because it has to "warm" the water up to body temperature. Cool water means refrigerated – period. Not frozen or full of ice.

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celebrate independent day

By the middle of the 1700s, the 13 colonies that made up part of England's empire in the New World were finding it difficult to be ruled by a king 3,000 miles across the Atlantic Ocean. They were tired of the taxes imposed upon them. But independence was a gradual and painful process. The colonists could not forget that they were British citizens and that they owed allegiance to King George III.

A "tea party" and a "Massacre" were two events that hurried destiny. Along with general unrest these events united the colonists. In 1767 a tea company in India, owned by England, was losing money. To save the company, England levied a tax on tea sold in the colonies in 1773. Partly as a joke, Samuel Adams and other Bostonians dressed up as Indians and dumped a cargo of the India Company Tea into the Massachusetts Bay. King George III did not think it was funny, nor did he lift the tax on tea. In the Boston harbor, British soldiers were jeered and stoned by colonists who thought the soldiers had been sent to watch them. The soldiers fired into the crowd and killed a few citizens. The colonists exaggerated the number killed and called it a massacre.

Virginia took the first step toward independence by voting to set up a committee to represent the colonies. This First Continental Congress met in September of 1774. They drew up a list of grievances against the crown which became the first draft of a document that would formally separate the colonies from England. George Washington took command of the Continental Army and began fighting the British in Massachusetts. For the next eight years, colonists fought fervently in the Revolutionary War.

In the meantime, a war of words was being waged in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. On July 2, 1776, the Second Continental Congress presented & debated a second draft of the list of grievances, and John Hancock, the president of the Second Continental Congress, was the first to sign. The document, called the Declaration of Independence, was treasonous against the crown and the fifty-six men who signed it were in danger of being executed.

Independence Day is celebrated on July 4 because that is the day when the Continental Congress adopted the final draft of the Declaration of Independence. From July 8, 1776, until the next month, the document was read publicly and people celebrated whenever they heard it. The next year, in Philadelphia, bells rang and ships fired guns, candles and firecrackers were lighted. But the War of Independence dragged on until 1783, and in that year, Independence Day was made an official holiday. 1941 Congress declared 4th of July a federal holiday.

John Adams, a lawyer, the first Vice President and the Second President of the United States, was one of the members of the Second Continental Congress who signed the Declaration of Independence. He wrote to his wife, "I believe that it will be celebrated by succeeding generations as the great anniversary festival... it ought to be celebrated by pomp and parade, with shows, games, sports, guns, bells, bonfires and illuminations from one end of this continent to the other..."

John Adams may have predicted the later Independence Day celebrations or perhaps he started traditions with his words. Every July fourth, Americans have a holiday from work. Communities have day-long picnics with favorite foods like hot dogs, hamburgers, potato salad, baked beans and all the fixings. The afternoon activities would not be complete without lively music, a friendly baseball game, three-legged races and a pie-eating or watermelon-eating contests. Some cities have parades with people dressed as the original founding fathers who march in parades to the music of high school bands. At dusk, people in towns and cities gather to watch the fireworks display. Wherever Americans are around the globe, they will get together for a traditional 4th of July celebration!

~Love~

love
Love grows in friendship's garden. Love has no age has forever being born. Love is a better master than duty.
Love is a flame, neither tame nor tamed. Love is a friendship set to music. Love is a given, hatred acquired. Love is a great beautifier.
Love is a little blind; when we love someone dearly we unconsciously overlook many faults.
Love is a little thing shaped like a lizard. It runs up and down, and tickles your gizzard.
Love is a misunderstanding between two fools.Love is a thread that mends worn hearts. Love is, above all, the gift of oneself. Love is an irresistible desire to be desired irresistibility.
Love is breakfast in the morning..!!
Love is the intense desire to be desired intensely.
Love is blind. Love is blind and it'll take over your mind. Love is blind, but friendship closes its eye.
Love is broad;If you love someone, you love all things,not just their beauty.
Love is narrow;you love one and only one, compared to them,no one matters.
Love is felt in all directions. Love is first friendship and then commitment.
Love is... for so many reasons, those who love will never ask why.
Love is friendship on fire.
Love is grand. Divorce is a hundred grand.
Love is how you earn your wings.
Love is just a word until you find someone to give it a definition.
Love is like a butterfly.If you chase it,it will elude you,but if you turn your attention to something else,it will come and softlysit on your shoulder.
Love is like a cloud, It comes in many shapes and sizes, each beautiful in it's own way.
Love is like a knife, it can stab the heart or it can carve wonderful images into the soul that will last a lifetime.
Love is like a roller coaster.... When it's good, you don't want to get off. When it's bad... you can't wait to throw up !!

someone i admire

I think I would have to say that my mother, Noor Aini, is the person I admire the most. My mother is the most important person in my life. My mother and me have always had a strong relationship, thought it might seem otherwise to people who see us togather because my mother is very different in public than she is private. I used to wonder why this was so, but I never asked because I could sense the she would not respond well to the question.

She's the kind of person who always has time for for her kids, always interested in learning something new, would sacrifice herself for her family and is easily the strongerst woman in my eyes. Growing up, I know I haven'teen the best son in the world but if you were to ask her, she would say otherwise. Looking back, my motheris the most positive and important influence on my life. She is someone I strive be, when I become a mother, I hope I am able to be liked she. I LOVE MY MOTHER SO MUCH.

Is a happy life possible without belief?

Is a happy life possible without belief?
As for life, if it is without belief, or if belief, because of rebelliousness, is ineffective, it will produce pains, sorrows and grief far exceeding the superficial, fleeting enjoyment and pleasure it brings. As an intelligent, thinking being, man is (in contrast to animals) intrinsically connected to the past and the future, as well as to the present time. He derives both pain and pleasure from them. Whereas, since the animals do not think, neither the sorrows arising from the past nor the fears and anxieties concerning the future, spoil their present pleasure. But if man has fallen into misguidance and heedlessness, sorrows arising from the past and anxieties about the future, mar his particular pleasure, diluting it with pains. Especially if it is an illicit pleasure, then it is like an altogether poisonous honey. This means that, with respect to enjoyments of life, man is a hundred times lower than the animals. In fact, for the misguided, heedless people, their whole life and existence, their whole world, consists in the day in which they find themselves. According to their misguided belief, all of time past and all past worlds have gone to non-existence. Their intellects, which connect them to the past and the future, produce darkness for them. Accordingly with their lack of belief, the future is also non-existent for them. The separations that become eternal because of this non-existence continually darken their lives.
By contrast, if they build their lives upon belief, then through the light of belief, both the past and the future will be illuminated and acquire existence. Like the present time, they provide, through belief, exalted spiritual pleasures and lights of existence for their spirit and heart