for the best.....

Anyone else out there have this situation going on...I've been thinking alot about this...My brother says "this is for the best". He really believes that this is not only the best for him, but the best for ME too! And like, I think he thinks that at some point, I will realize this is for the BEST for me. He was right!..or some such nonsense. I mean, yes, he and I had been completely enmeshed in that, if I didn't understand something on the computer, he would get irritated and whip through it when he showed it to me, as if I was an extension of him - like the part of him that "knew what to do" but just forgot. I wonder if that could be why he truly believes this is the "best" for me too - becuase he doesn't know where he ends and I begin. He doesn't realize that I have feelings DIFFERENT than his. Hum....What do you all think? Anyone else dealing with this "it's for the best" thang?