what do I do now

I am not only thinking of myself, however. We do have a son together and I am putting him before me. My husband reacts very angrily towards me, and someone once told me that intesnse anger can come as a result of intense love...(meaning there is still SOME feeling there) I can't help but think that if he didn't care at ALL that he would be totally indifferent towards me altogether, which he is not. I also can't believe that after 10 years of being with someone, 7 married, that you get over someone in just half a year, unless he truly never cared from the start. I know what mistakes I have made, I see where I have gone wrong. The problem is, getting HIM to understand this. He has a history of anxiety disorder which causes him to become very irritational. It is impossible to post one's whole life/marital history. I am just looking for feedback of some kind.